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Originally Posted by kunitokotachi
Here are some of the reasons any girl may reject someone:
- Bad attitude
- Ignorance
- Finding someone unattractive
- Bad breath
- Body odor
- Simply not interested
- Strange fashion sense
- Disrespectful approach
- Mannerism
- Language barrier
- Share nothing in common
- arrogant behavior or body language
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Hah, and people are always saying girls don't like nice guys. And here you telling guys to be nice. How refreshing, I'm getting tired of all these tough guys saying that being a jerk gets you girls.
Not just forgottenmemory, I read all of that post as well.
You say to go with your "cup empty". But oddly my preconceptions about Japan ended up being true. And there were words for it like shame culture, saving face, tatemae and honne ect. That Japanese are overworked. That Japan is strict. That Japan is elitist.
Oddly enough these are ideas about Japan that come naturally to a lot of people. Including me. But it seems like some people focus on the harsher aspects of Japanese culture so much that it builds on the ones that already understand this to the point it's overkill. Makes Japan seem so distopian and like a living hell. It was already intimidating, but then it becomes even worse. And eventually people's intense interest in Japan gives way to the fear and intimidation. And they make threads like this.
I don't think that the people who go to Japan with an arrogant attitude ever truly were very interested in Japan to begin with. Who have no real appreciation for Japanese culture at all.
I'm not saying that you're particularly guilty of this, but people in general sometimes.