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Originally Posted by Ponpon
Ok, i'm going to desperately try and crawl out of the hole i dug for myself here. I don't mean it the way you think. Maybe i accidentaly sounded like that, didn't mean it. I'm not shallow-minded, i'm not vain and i am most certainly not mean. I don't want to judge her in a bad way, i know what it feels like because i have always been judged negatively for what kind of person i am etc etc blablah.
All i was trying to say is that if you put a cute little japanese (or wherever from) gothic lolita next to the girl i sometimes see the style would look way better on the other girl.
And i didn't say she should give up the way she dresses, and i think it's great that she dares to dress unique every day. I'm studying to be a fashion designer and am also trying to look unique every day and i also get the stares. All i'm saying is that she could look better (keeping her own style) by giving it a little extra thought
I hang around with all kinds of people, also goths (don't own any gothic clothes but love it) and i am not judging anyone, just saying that within a style you have people who dress better than others. The ginger-spice grandma comparison was a little too much, said that coz i was trying to be extra convincing because someone said i sounded shallow-minded. Wich, again, i am not (really really relaly so not  ) and after this i hope not too many people will think that i am =S
sorry if i also offended anyone else with the previous post |
Oh no i wasnt trying to sacrifice you or anything. Im sorry if you felt vilified, it wasnt an attack on you personally- more an attack on the general assumption that society has that only SOME people can wear some things.
It creates a world where lots of people dont feel they can express themselves truly because of judgement and expectations. Which is sad, to me. I would love to live in a world where people could wear anything they liked with impunity.
Im sure youre not a shallow person.
We should all just dress as crazy as we like and not give a damn what anyone says. Start a revolution lol