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Originally Posted by Kal3ido
I dont look at it as who looks better, if you come from a family where evey 3rd child succeeds, then you will understand my thinking. My mom and dad gave us a good home, made good living, they was involed in our lives, but my brothers as my dad calls them are "stumps". Since im the only one doing something with my life, I refuse to have my kids displayed in this negative light. I know that this might be wishy washy, but who know's as Im told, we have bad blood. I didn't believe it at first but it happens a lot where I live at. If you have 3 kids it seems like 2 of them will be stumps. That's in my family and friends. Im very superstitions(sp?)
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I can in a way understand where you come from. Sometimes when I go to my original neighborhood and see where I grew up...it's just a huge embarrassment. But I will NEVER! Be ashamed of who I am, or what my culture represents. I believe that every person should be proud of their heritage, not full of themselves off of it. I don't see what anything you have to say applies to your child being Japanese. I guess I just don't get why...why Japan? It doesn't make sense to me. As others were saying, the likeliness of you being able to adopt a child in Japan is low. If you really want a child to grow up with the 'Japanese Culture' then you either become a Japanese citizen and live there, or you don't adopt one at all.
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Originally Posted by Kal3ido
Let's take BET for starters. What do you see? If a kid grows up and believes this is my culture I need to act this way or do this or wear this. Media does play an active view in children lives. All I can do is install in my child good values. I know I can not be with the child 24/7 and be like this is wrong, dont give into peer pressure and things like that. I think if a child feels that it's apart of another culture that has good values, maybe it will become different and a well respected person and want to know more about it.
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I take great offense to this. If your child, should it be african american, grows up thinking that BET is everything it's culture is about then that is the fault of the parent. Why is it that you have to live in the 'perfect home with the white picket fence' in order to have good values instilled? I grew up in one of the worst suburbs outside of chicago and the South side of chicago. Not once have I stolen, gotten into a fight, been suspended/expelled, been in any unlawful activity. I graduated the valedictorian of my 8th grade class, and the top 50% of my senior high school class. I am a German/Marine Biology double major with a minor in Chinese and a 3.2 GPA. And NO we did not have that picket fence. My parents worked their asses off, and are still doing so, to give me good opportunities AND values and THAT is why I am where I am today. Do not blame it on the media. It essentially the parenting that plays the main role in a child coming into their identity. There is nothing wrong with the values of my parents/grandparents/etc. Do NOT imply that it is African Americans who have bad values as things like that do not discriminate along racial lines. In other words it exists in ALL races, including the Japanese.