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Originally Posted by steve88
I've 3 children, 2 boys and one girl. Their age are, girl 19, boys 15 and 11 years. They don't like each others. They always fight among each on TV channels, computer, car seat arrangement, etc. I've tried my best to harmonies but failed. I admire those family whose children are well behave and closed to each and respect their parent. We failed miserably as parent but that is not what we want. Has anyone got this problem? Could anyone help me how to tackle this issue. Thank you  |
Firstly: you are not a abd parent because you obviously CARE.
Secondly: you've been a parent for 19 years, and you still haven't worked out that sibling rivalry exists? Teenagers are generally hormonal nowadays, you can't change it. Would you like them to be well behaved because statistics show that in that case, they won't have as much of a developed personality.It's perfectly natural, it's primitive instinct to fight for space, food, materials. It's science, you can't really argue with it. you can't tackle it, it's just how it is.
thirdly: you shouldn't admire how well behaved other families are because chances are, they're probably in the same position as you. Families are not supposed to be perfect, you're living in a house with 5 people you got to learn to lvie with each other.
You could even argue that its nice to see them argue because when they're all grown up, you'll miss it, their bickering and seeing them as childish, young adult behavior, because its part of their growing up.
The only thing you can do is just reprimand them if they're being TOO out of order, other than that, just let them be.