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Originally Posted by SSJup81

You know, I kind of disagree with this one. Just because two people are attracted to someone of the same gender, doesn't mean that they should be denied the right of having children if they so choose to have them, although, honestly, I am literally on the fence with this issue and usually try to avoid it since I can see where you're coming from on this issue, and I sort of feel this way, and then I can see it from the couple's point of view.

If they took the step to be married in this way then they have denied themselves, noone has denied it for them.

Originally Posted by SSJup81

There are female relatives outside of a mother. It could be a grandmother, a cousin, an aunt. If it's a situation where it is just the father, there can be "substitutions".

That is why I called it a lottery.

Originally Posted by SSJup81

That aside, what exactly do you mean, "he shouldn't have to"?

I mean that he shouldn't have to raise kids by himself. No single parent should.

Originally Posted by SSJup81

But this occurs in two-parent homes too.

I've answered this later.

Originally Posted by SSJup81

Sorry to hear that you went through that, but the same can apply to kids who grow up or grew up in a two-parent home. It's not exclusive to just those who grew up in a single-parent home.

I think you'll find that this happens in two parent homes because there is some sortof imbalance in that family. Kids who have been brought up and expect to get their love and understanding from their family, are less likely to go out and look to other people for acceptance.
If this happens in two parent dysfunctional homes, then it has an even higher risk of happening in single parent homes.
You have to realise that most families these days are more dysfunctional than not and attitudes towards a family in the West are very different to what they were. You can't look to them for an adequate comparison of what i'm talking about. All the stuff I said though is what should happen. This is why I said that you would expect everything I wrote in at least an "ok" family environment.

Originally Posted by SSJup81

That's ironic.
I really feel that I'm incapable of "romantic" love and my parents have always been loving towards me, so this can't truly always apply.

I'd have to ask you more about why you think you're incapable of "romantic" love, though all romantic love is, is love mixed in with lust.
When I said that a mother instills a sense of love in her children, I meant that in the most basic sense. Romantic love is something that comes after "family love" so to speak. One of the things a child will learn from its mother is how to keep a relationship together, rather than let it fall apart due to being emotionally shut off and the like.