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Originally Posted by ivi0nk3y

If they took the step to be married in this way then they have denied themselves, noone has denied it for them.

But seems society is trying to. A person can't help whom he or she falls for, imo, and this goes for same-gendered couples. If they want to be parents, they should be allowed to...hypothetically speaking.

I mean that he shouldn't have to raise kids by himself. No single parent should.

But it still happens. Like if the spouse dies or something, then there really isn't much choice there.

I think you'll find that this happens in two parent homes because there is some sortof imbalance in that family. Kids who have been brought up and expect to get their love and understanding from their family, are less likely to go out and look to other people for acceptance.

Or either the child is weak-minded and wants the attention and approval of his/her peers regardless of how much his/her family obviously loves him/her. IMO, this is extremely normal, now the level of which a child will go is the question.

You have to realise that most families these days are more dysfunctional than not and attitudes towards a family in the West are very different to what they were. You can't look to them for an adequate comparison of what i'm talking about. All the stuff I said though is what should happen. This is why I said that you would expect everything I wrote in at least an "ok" family environment.

Pretty much, I suppose.

I'd have to ask you more about why you think you're incapable of "romantic" love, though all romantic love is, is love mixed in with lust.

I think it's because the idea of marriage, settling down, dating seems overrated to me. I want a child, but not a man to go with it. I had a boyfriend for a year. I never did sleep with him or anything, since the idea of it just semi-repulsed me, even though he was a very nice guy. I would make tons of excuses to get out of it. I pretty much only loved him in a "friendship" sense and seems this has been the case towards any guy I've been around. I could be attracted to the guy, but never want anything more than a friendship. To be honest, I have no idea what's wrong with me.

When I said that a mother instills a sense of love in her children, I meant that in the most basic sense. Romantic love is something that comes after "family love" so to speak. One of the things a child will learn from its mother is how to keep a relationship together, rather than let it fall apart due to being emotionally shut off and the like.

That's funny. I guess it's the other way around for me. I have "familial love", hence my wanting to adopt a child, but haven't much of a desire to have a romantic love, which is why I feel I'm incapable of it.