[gloomth]

Ok this is a topic that Im pretty familiar with.

Im Goth, have been since early high school. Now Im an adult, I run a business, Im married- Im no teenager anymore but Im still Gothic.

Time and again, when I was younger, I got the "youll never meet a nice man dressed like you are" people assumed every man draped in black was a serial killer or some drug addled couch-surfer with a dozen piercings...

My husband is also Gothic- he is also a professional and an utter gentleman.

I never once wavered in my attire or beliefs or lifestyle- not for dates, not out of embarassment (and im originally from a VERY small town), not for anything. Because its who I am.

I always believed that the kind of men who would only consider me if i dressed like a "normal" woman were not the kinds of men I wanted to be with.

If some girl is going to instantly write you off because youre wearing some kickass lolita outfit- well then shes a bubblehead and shallow- end of story.
I know lots of women who wouldnt. Clothes dont make the man.

People who are daft will make snap judgements about you.
Those people are sheep, ignore them.
End of story.

If Loli is a hobby for you- awesome- if its going to be your fulltime lifestyle- fine- but know that not everyone agrees with it, not everyone will get that youre a human and a straight dude under the frills.