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Originally Posted by chachava
You sound a bit uptight to me, but I respect your morals...
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How is it being uptight? It's not even my being moral, thinking about it. I don't think it's right to have casual sex. If I don't feel close enough to the guy to go to that next level, I won't, since it wouldn't be fair to me. If I'm going to give up my body to any guy I date, I should at least have
some feelings of love involved towards him that are more than just friendly, which, ironically,
has been a problem for me. In a way, I feel that I have expectations of a relationship and it never should be based on just sex alone, but this just my opinion. Seriously, if there was no emotional connection in the way that I want it, I'd feel like we were friends with benefits, not an actual couple.
I don't know if it's completely true or not, but I always read that for women, we have to mentally get into it before actually doing anything, where as for guys, it's more of a physical thing. Who knows, maybe it is a stereotype, but I definitely fit it. I have to be mentally and emotionally connected to my partner before even considering doing anything.