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Originally Posted by SSJup81
How is it being uptight? It's not even my being moral, thinking about it. I don't think it's right to have casual sex. If I don't feel close enough to the guy to go to that next level, I won't, since it wouldn't be fair to me. If I'm going to give up my body to any guy I date, I should at least have some feelings of love involved towards him that are more than just friendly, which, ironically, has been a problem for me. In a way, I feel that I have expectations of a relationship and it never should be based on just sex alone, but this just my opinion. Seriously, if there was no emotional connection in the way that I want it, I'd feel like we were friends with benefits, not an actual couple.
I don't know if it's completely true or not, but I always read that for women, we have to mentally get into it before actually doing anything, where as for guys, it's more of a physical thing. Who knows, maybe it is a stereotype, but I definitely fit it. I have to be mentally and emotionally connected to my partner before even considering doing anything.
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I'm a guy (and an agnostic, if that matters), but I agree with you SSJup81. There should be some emotion connection before going to the step of having sex. That level of intimacy is something that should be shared with someone you love, not just some stranger you met in a bar an hour ago.