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I've been only wearing a lolita style for a bit, but I've not gotten anything too bad off it. Most the things I get is, "Why are you wearing that?", "I like your dress, looks expensive!", "Are you trying to be a doll?", and the infamous, "Wow, did you dress like that on purpose?"

I'm sure, though, that it does depend on the area you go to. Some people will have more courage to openly put you down, and some just won't care enough to say anything. Don't let it bug you though, because if you enjoy it; wear it. It doesn't matter what people think, anyways. They are just stupid most the times, anyhow. ^^

As for some good lolita sites, here is what I've been able to scavenge up;
Instead of listing many sites, I'll list the one that has a LOT.
Batgear Beyond - Your ultimate online gothic fashion resource, Gothic Clothing Cyber Clothing Fetish Clothes Shoes Boots and Corsets

There are a BUNCH.

Anyways, hope that helped!