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Woah, you in for a ride dude... Everything changes after marriage, the same women you know now will not the one you know in a few years. Ive been married to my wife Asuka for 3 years now. And trust me we have been through some battles. Most Japanese-American marriages experience the same shit. Prepare for cultural clash! Trust me I know. If you have any problems you can talk to me. I am in Okinawa also. PM me for my e-mail.
But hang in there dude don't be another statistic. Most Japanese American marriages that stay to gether end up happy down the road you just have to hang in there.
You are married now. No more girls, try not to even look. I know its hard. She will have some serious trust issues with you.
Satistics are 75% of the Marriages end in the first year.
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Thanks for all the advice, I'll PM you, I think we're in for a very good marriage, but nowadays I guess you can never tell.
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Originally Posted by MissMisa
You shouldn't make her feel like she isn't good enough. You should like her for who she is, not what her breasts are like. I'm sure you do, but you have to make it clear that you don't want anyone but her. It's awful for a women to feel like she isn't what you wanted or that she is inferior to other women in your eyes. I don't know why you told her you find other things attractive other than her in the first place, that can be pretty hurtful you know. Nobody is perfect, obviously, but saying you like women with big breasts when she hasn't got big breasts isn't a good way to go about things. In any case, don't let her go through something like that for no reason. A women should do these things for herself, not for a man. If you think she is beautiful, tell her so. And if you don't like her for who she is already, then why did you marry her? I'm sure you do anyway, just make sure she's aware of that. Women do things like that because they are insecure, normally, so make sure she doesn't feel like that. Just my opinion there.
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Maybe I came off the wrong way in my post. I'm not trying to change her, she's trying to change herself for the things she already knows I like. I'm not even trying to put ideas in her head, she's coming up with all this stuff on her own. I think maybe, just maybe, this is all stuff she wanted to do before, but she was afraid that guys might not like it, but now that we're married, we can be completely open with each other. I've never told her "I think you should get bigger boobs" but she has said "honey, would you like it if I had bigger boobs?" I'm not gonna lie, and tell her no.
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Wow you guys reply fast on this forum. I've already told her she doesn't have to change anything about herself and I will love her no matter what. But if she insists on doing things because she knows I like it, who am I to argue?