[Paul11]

I've been in an internation marriage for 10 years and lived in both countries. If you are both mature and level headed, then things should be fine. The first year is the most difficult. It is imperitive you learn to understand Japanese culture, language and psychology so you can understand your new wife.

If you have that understanding, then you won't experience the international marriage "difficulties" but have more intersting things the learn about each other and your relationship.

A relationship shouldn't take a lot of work. You know you're with the right person if it is relaxed and it is not difficult.