[Paul11]

Nyoryorin and MMM are totally correct. Forget the superficial stuff. Tell her you like her the way you are and just get to know her.

We don't really know the circumstances, so I don't think we can make decisions about someone's self esteem or your relatiopnship. Never presume to understand a relationship between a married couple.

JHowever, just get to know her and tell her you like her the way she is. The physicall passion will relax over time, the body will sag, only the heart will remain - so that should be your first concern.