[Hackimoto]

You can be as hard as you want on the kids(to a point of course), it won't hurt them. As long as you think of them before yourself and don't allow your emotions to control your actions. Parenting is pretty hard, but the trick is just to try and see things from their point of view sometimes. My son is a very terrible child, but a lot of it is just because he doesn't get out of the house enough and do fun things so he doesn't have enough incentive to behave. You just have to remember that kids are just little tiny people. They have the same feelings you do. You may have to be stern to get them to do the right things, and they may get mad at you a lot but they'll get over it(sometimes within the next few minutes). And the most imortant thing is to not be afraid to ask for help. Your parents raised you(right?) so they should know a thing or two. Another thing is they will probably take after you, so the better you know yourself the better you can figure out how to deal with your kids.(sort of like when they say 'know yourself, not your enemy' or some Art of War kind of stuff)