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Originally Posted by SSJup81
Are you sure about that? I don't know anyone who'd be against sharing a bed with his or her child. My own parents used to do that with me, but after a certain age, it looks strange because as a child gets older, the child is supposed to become more and more independent from his or her parents.
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You have a very close family.
In general, if you make the comment that you sleep with your child at any stage of their life you`ll either be told that you`re going to kill them (when they`re a baby), that you are an awful parent if they`re between say 1 and 3... or told that you`re sick and there is something wrong with your household. Making babies sleep alone, through the night, at a VERY early age seems to be one of the foremost issues in everyone`s mind. Including doctors, who shouldn`t really care about the issue.
I can`t talk with most parents in the US about child-raising issues, as they DO ask, and they ARE disgusted enough by the fact that my son doesn`t even have his own bed let alone sleep away from us in it during the night. It`s become less of a topic now that he`s 4 - but only because no one thinks that we`d actually have him sleeping with us at night. That`s just not "normal".
I recall being told by someone that it was downright disgusting that I was still "letting" my son into our bed when he was 3 months old and that I would ruin his life by not MAKING him learn that he needs to be away from me. NOW. Because, obviously, a baby wanting to be near a parent - no matter how young they may be - was slyly trying to manipulate me.
Don`t believe it? Look at some English language parenting books or spend a few minutes browsing through any parenting website. Mothers are ashamed to even admit that they fell asleep next to their baby by accident, let alone invite them into the "parental bed".