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I think if you read Nyororin's posts again, you will see she is giving you the hard facts. Maybe you don't like her tone, but she is trying to give you a wake-up call for your sake. She is one of the most helpful people here, and does so completly out of charity. You have a LOT of things you and your fiance need to do before you can even consider living in Japan. That is the reality.