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Originally Posted by Eidrib
Hi...
I'm planning to marry my current lover in about a decade (lol)... I dream of living with him and raising our children and living happily... but I'm excessively worried that I might not be a good mom... I worry about it and cry about it all day because I'm such a crybaby and I'm so clumsy... also I know that people learn from their own parents what they shouldn't do to their own child because they know how it feels... yet still children are annoyed or upset by what their parents do...
I'm so lost because if you scold children they will hate you (and even kill you, like it happens a lot in Japan) and if you let them play they will become spoiled... and I myself, I'm such a crybaby but still I really want to have a child... will I ever be a good mother? I don't believe that taking parenting lessons alone won't make me a good mother...
Sob. Please help.
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Dun worry, i sure you would a great mother. you dun hav 2 cry bout. Hey, think of the positive side. You never noe wad the future. Maybe, four years down the road, you would be voted for the best mother awards. Seriously, dun worry, hav more faith in yourself. And bout the clumisness. I am aso very clusmy myself. Thus, i always get scolded by my mum. k, wad i am saying is tat many ppl are also clumsy and i tink tat clumisness is wad make the girls cuter. u noe, in manga and anime(if you ever read or watch one), the main heroin is alway clusmy and tat make the main guy fall for her, rite? so, juz imagine yourself as the main heroin. And last, about scolding children. yes, i know, many children would get angry when their mother scold them. i, too, get angry with my mother when she scold and i always told myself tat i would never talk to her again. But, you noe wad, i can never do it. maybe, i can stop talking to her for one day but never more than two days. and you noe why, because i love her and i know that she scold me for my own good. it help me to change into a better person. So i am sure that your future kids would understand why you scold them and tat when you scold them, it shows that you care for them. Even though, they might get angry and might say that they hate you when you scold them, but i sure deep down inside they dun mean it and they still love you, cause no kids can ever hate their parents. I noe tat wad i say might not help you much but i juz want you know that it is not a unclumsiness and stong woman makes a good mother but it is love and compassion that make a wonderful mother. Remember, hav more faith in yourself. You can do it.
