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Originally Posted by Eiri
K, here's whats going on. I like one of my best friends, I've known him for about 4 1/2 yrs, but we've only gotten to actually know each other for two and its now that I've started to like him. I've always been attracted to him, even though we didnt used to talk before, but I've always liked his company. Thing is, right now he in a bit of a mess, his ex girlfriend (who happens to be bi-polar) broke up with him, but still calls him and tells him that she loves him (-rolleyes-) while dating her current/ex boyfriend(not sure on that particular detail) on top of which he has another close friend whom he likes and has wanted to date for the longest time(she's also wanted to date him but it seems she always ends up with a boyfriend everytime he asks her out) and on top of that he met some girl last week and had sex with her the other day (I really wanted to stab him for that, but oh well...) He knows I like him, we've had a conversation on that, and he told me he liked me as a friend, but what I'm afraid of is that he's starting to see me as another one of his guy friends, although I'm somewhat sure he's also not "looking" my way so that he doesnt hurt me if he ends up doing something stupid. But I really do care for him, even with his faults.
and now for my cousin's famous six words:
I don't know what to do.
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Originally Posted by Acidreptile
The solution is to forget about that and just be friends with him.
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Originally Posted by Eiri
if only my life were that simple
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So what's the problem, save for the fact that you think other people are ruling your life?
Blame love, blame fate, blame him, blame the girl he slept around with, blame your friendship, but don't blame yourself eh?
Quit it. You're in this mess because you can't get your head straight, even when you've clearly had help doing so. It's your fault that you're in this mess, and you're the only one that's going to get yourself out. And I can personally guarantee you that the more you try to come onto him as something more than that, the more you're going to make him angry with you, and the more you're going to drive him away. If you like having him around, get over him and find a new person to attach your affection to (hell, ask for his help if you want to), otherwise enjoy the masochistic nights you'll be having whilst he gets further and further away from you because of what you're doing to the relationship you already have with him.