[StangGuy]

Nope, I can't say my experience comes from Tokyo. My dating experience comes from my time in Hiroshima and with my views of what it means to be "single" in Japan also influenced by Japanese guys from Nagoya.

I wasn't saying that Japanese women are willing to cheat at any chance. I was trying to say that short of a deep commitment to "the one" she will be willing to entertain that some other guy is "the one", and will go on a date with him. My comment about being "single" unless married comes from direct experience. When I was asked if I was "single" and answered "no" pretty much everytime the other person assumed I was married. One time that sticks out is when I was drinking with a US expat and a Japanese woman that I had known for a few months and they knew I wasn't married but I was dating someone, but an older Japanese man asked me if I was single and I said "no", they both were shocked and wanted to know when I got married. It is just that in my experience Japanese view relationships differently. Unless they feel like it is a long term relationship, they are willing to date other people and most of their cohort will view it as okay even if the other people they are dating wouldn't think it is okay.

As for asking her out, I definitely think the first time you should ask at least one other coworker to come so it isn't so high pressure.