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Originally Posted by MMM
You are saying it wouldn't be chivalrous to make a move on another guy's girl. Here is my take.
Dating is the process you go through in order to find yourself and then find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Once you find that person, you get married. Once the ring is on the finger, all other courters should back off.
But until then, all bets are off. If the man the woman is with now is the right man for her, then Zed is no threat to that. BUT, if the man the woman is with ISN'T right for her, but no other man approaches her because of chivalry, then she will be stuck with someone who isn't her true match.
What if Zed and she are perfect for each other, but he never finds out because he is too afraid of stepping on a stranger's toes? If she does agree to go out with him that means she questions the relationship she is in now, and doesn't SHE have the right to explore the possibilities available to her?
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I completely agree with your assessment. Pursuing a woman who is taken is nothing to be ashamed of. As long as you go about it the right way... (i.e. no means no)
I mean the best you can do is put yourself out there and the rest is her decision.