[MissMisa]

Originally Posted by ZedKnightly

was wondering when someone will hit me with this. it finally came. and from a girl too.

well.. i dont really know how i can defend myself on this matter.
i am out of options im afraid. i cant even be a friend to her. either ill confess and see from there, or not have her in my life at all. and i really dont want the latter.

i say i cant befriend her because its hard to talk to a girl here and just be friends. i dont know, somebody said im wrong, but im not alone when i say in japan its rare when people look at a guy and a girl and see them as just friends. add the fact that were on the same company and that japanese have a huge barrier between work life and social life, i cant really approach her as a friend in any way. ive tried it, when i first got to the company. but it just seemed like she was talkng to me jst cause we work together. no "were friends for real" feelings, no sharing of personal stuffs etc.

so for me in order to be close to her.. im afraid this is my only option left.

if me being called a bad/mean person for trying this out then i guess ill accept it. its not the first time ill be called that. i just dont want to regret to not try to go for someone i feel im beggining to love. if she rejects me then ill accept that wholeheartedly. hows that for a promise..?

ill nvr ask her to break up wth her current bf. nor will i ever demand anything from her.
it may sound corny. but i just want her to let me be close to her, and if possibly, love her.

Well to be honest, as well as putting her in an extremely difficult situation you are also punishing yourself.

I can speak from experience here. I had a boyfriend and someone told me they loved me while I was going out with him. It put me in a very difficult situation and it was extremely awkward to a point where I just don't see that person anymore. My boyfriend at the time was upset that someone had said that to me while I was going out with him, which caused problems, and I also felt very bad having to hurt someone that was my friend.

If you loved her as much as you say you do, you would not want to put her in such an awkward situation. You are thinking about your feelings, your need to be close to her, your need to confess. If you really loved her as much as you think you do, I think you'd be considering her feelings a lot more.