[biginjapan]

no offense dude but the problem sounds like its your low self esteem. If you aren't comfortable in social situations then you aren't going to make friends anywhere in the world. In order to make friends you do need to actually talk to them. If you stand still in a room of people then that won't help your situation. You need to get over being shy and approach people.

You won't join a club? Come on dude, don't ask for help if you aren't willing to change.

Thats like me asking how do I gain muscle? And then I say "well I don't want to lift weights because its tiring."

Sorry if I come off like I dick but I guess thats one of my problems is that I've always been blunt.