01-17-2009, 05:40 PM
ahhhh, two of several words that are emotional land mines - and very related to each other.
About the only clues to what someone means when they say the "want" you or that they regard you as "mine", is:
Consider the situation at the moment;
Listen to your heart and gut's response when it is said (not your mind's);
Ask them to explain.
None are foolproof and none can be relied upon beyond the moment. Want someone wants at a givien moment is always subject to change.
I would suggest that bearing in mind that this may very well be a passing thought for the other person, what is to be gained or lost by simply accepting it and living in the moment. Sometimes the risk is low and its time to just enjoy, other times the risk is high and you need more input before using what information you have.
"Mine" is the one that worries me more. Depending on the person's emotinal state, that can be a very sweet and welcome sentiment. But if the person tend to be overly dependent or possessive, be careful about encouraging it, or even accepting it.
Only an open mind and open heart can be filled with life. ********************* Find your voice; silence will not protect you.
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