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Originally Posted by bELyVIS
My wife agrees with this too. She says most (again not all) wants a woman to take care of them and that the woman should just agree with him even if it is something that she really is against. Also, she feels that Japanese men are not taught to show their feelings and that loving their woman is just something they should know and never should have to show.
My wife was amazed that I told my Japanese friends that I loved her even when she was sitting right there. She told me that it would never happen if she was with a Japanese guy.
Have you ever heard of a Narita divorce? That is when newlyweds come back from a honeymoon only to get a divorce. On the honeymoon the woman must take charge because the guy is too scared or withdrawn to ask for anything and the woman takes this as a sign of weakness. She sees that her life will be this way and decides to leave.
On the other hand, Japanese women are fed this stuff about western men being a certain way too (strong, straight forward, loving. etc). This is also a generalization.
As for the comment about Japan would have died out if the women felt this way about Japanese men. Japan has been a closed society until recently. If you don't see anything different you can't miss it and if you have no choice you take what is available.
I can see that Japan is starting to act more westernized and the younger people are changing. I don't know if it is good or bad but maybe we will lose what makes Japan so beautiful and unique. Just my opinion.
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bELyVIS, thank you so much. This is what I been looking for. I totally agree with you on the point that "Japanese Man does not show their love for one's own woman". I'm not blaming them. This is a cultural fact. Different country and culture have effects on emotion of the people living in.
Ronin4hire, I'm sorry to say this but I started my thread to GENERALIZE on "Why Japanese Guys are too shy in front of Girls". Not to criticize or defend whether there really are or not. And as a matter of fact, we are talking about those guys who grown up in Japan and totally influence by their culture. Not on those who found their way out of that society and adapt to new culture. You may have 100 or 1000 of Japanese friend but there are billions of people living in Japan. And I could say that you only become to know those who are you type, i.e. more mature Japanese guy. You doesn't seem to come across those with shy character.
Ronin4hire & Keaton421 may stop arguing since you two are of the real topic and I dun want my thread just closed down without any proper answer. I'm sure there are lots of people who interested in this one. And I intended for those Shy Guy, if they come across this thread, could pick up some useful tip about their weakness and gain strength to go out with real cute girls.
On the second thought, I could not disagree with Spicytuna. Yeah, u r rite! There r still girl who like shy character than dare devil guys. Girl with soft heart and kindness. If I could have such GF, I would rather be a soft & weak guy like them. I dun like tough girls... peace
