[Nyororin]

Thought of adding this to my previous post, but it was long enough as was.

In regard to manga / anime / etc referenced in the first post...
Japanese girls usually really like stories in which the protagonist and love interest have numerous "close but miss" events, building up anticipation for when the "hit" happens... And they also really tend to enjoy stories where the protagonist is the one to find the "real" personality, secret feelings, weakness, etc of their love interest. So you will see a lot of patterns of the love interest being attractive but really horrible - until they fall in love with the main character and she "opens his heart"... A sign that he`d never truly been in love with anyone else before.

It`s an extremely common literary pattern in Japan - not necessarily derived from any reality.