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Originally Posted by Sangetsu
You think Japanese women are interesting? I suppose they are, at least superficially, but things are not always as they seem. I've heard any number of rants from westerners who have married Japanese women, and then complain that they only have sex once a month (twice, if they are lucky), and how their wives push them to work hard because if their husbands doesn't work hard enough, they can't be your typical stay-at-home housewives which all Japanese women dream to be.
You'll give your Japanese wife your entire paycheck, and she'll give you an "allowance" which you will use for things like lunch at work, or drinks from vending machines for you to enjoy on your commutes. Her allowance will be quite larger of course, someone has to keep the shops in Ginza and Omotesando Hills in business.
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I think that Japanese women are REALLY getting the short end of the stick in your interpretation. I`d say that a very very small percentage of women are like that, and those who are just want money and wouldn`t be caught dead marrying - much easier to lead 4 or 5 guys on and suck them dry. (But I guess if you`re stupid enough to fall for a girl in a foreigners bar in Roppongi - you deserve it in my opinion.)
Otherwise, it`s a huge cultural thing. Most Japanese men expect their wives to manage the money, set out a guilt free allowance, etc.
The big reason for staying at home is that Japan does not look well upon working mothers. Children are supposed to be put first, and not forked off to daycare.
Most Japanese women are normal average people who just want to live decent lives - but they`re not "super hot" and don`t hang around bars looking to pick up white guys.
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Many Japanese men dream of marrying western women, do you wonder why?
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That`s certainly a new one to me. Don`t you mean "Want to see what it`s like to have sex with a foreign girl." ? Because they sure aren`t interested in marrying them.
This goes both ways, but foreign marriages end like no other because of horribly skewed expectations. It seems like the majority of men coming to Japan to go after Japanese women have watched too much porn and expect to have a little sex bunny for life - and go into shock when she has real feelings and her own ideas of how she wants to lead her life... The biggest blatant reason seems to be that the western side always assumes their desires and plans are the priority, and that the Japanese side should just follow along. 9 times out of 10, that means that the western side expects the Japanese side to move out of Japan with them.