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Originally Posted by Kal3ido
There's more reason to that then what im letting on. Ever since 5th grade when I found out my teacher adopted an asian child, I was intrigue. I asked her why and she told my why she did. So maybe going to the sperm bank is selfishness, but what about the gay people who do it? I am Bi, so that does not mean me and my boyfriend will stay togather forever. If I end up with a woman and I feel like I want to get married to her, then we want kids we will go to the sperm bank. Just because I want to add to my kids culture does not mean, im doing something wrong. If you feel that way, then pretty much everyone on this forum is wrong, everyone is basically here to learn or become more Japanese like.
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There's nothing wrong with adopting a child who happens to be asian no matter who you are, but you're going to have to think it through more. It does sound like you're fixated on adopting an asian child and giving them a culture you aren't well familiar with. In addition to being a challenge, you may confuse the child if you do this for your own reasons rather than for the child's. But maybe you'll have thought this through long enough to do it right.
More alarming to some people is the possiblity or perception that your motivation is to fill a personal need. I'm not going to judge someone for that because it's a very common sentiment among humans. The concern is if this need is possibly unhealthy or would limit how you raise the child. Keep in mind your child is going to grow and grow, and is a lifetime job.
Being bi doesn't mean you can't stay married, that's either you or your boyfriend.