Self-harm is a "coping mechanism"
the SIer has not "properly" learned to cope with issues & so they do what they do~at least thats what I've been told many times. . as an SIer myself. .
I suppose it's true. Like me for example! I CANNOT cry. I just can't.
I've been told it has something to do with my past, but I don't know. .
all I know is that I've been doing this for most of my life without thinking about it. I just do it. I don't even recall how it started. I never understood why I did it & I still don't completely understand. . .but I do know it doesn't make you "emo", it doesn't make you cool. I can actually talk about it now...before I was terrified of anyone finding out, but over the years its become okay. I still can't just show them to anyone. But, I've learned it really helps to talk about possible reasons behind doing it. I'm working my way thru it with the help of my FRIENDS, not stupid therapists or psychologists. .they just complicate thingz>_<
One day I remember thinking, "this is wrong. .something must be wrong with me" & to an extent it's true.
But..anyway, my thoughts?
You do what you gotta do. Even if you don't understand it. What hurts other ppl is a savior to others. It's just another way of survival. We're humans, we'll do whatever it takes to survive.
Sometimes it makes us feel weak for depending on it so much, but it definitely makes us strong enough to keep going.
PS~you have to be an SHer to fairly make the judgement about whether or not it's "necessary"~to those who have no clue about it, of course it's not gonna seem "necessary", it'll seem absurd or stupid.