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Originally Posted by ChisaChi
Thanks Nyorin, ozkai. Leading on from those answers, I would assume that it would be difficult a 17 year old without a highschool diploma, a degree, fluency in Japanese, work experience or savings to marry and support a wife? I suppose if the OP's girlfriend is working she could support him while he takes on a more domestic role, but that tends to be frowned upon in Western society and it looks like Japanese take a similar view. How difficult would it be for a foreigner with a spousal visa to find the kind of work that doesn't require a degree or Japanese skills?
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A 17-year-old's job is to graduate from high school and then go to college or vocational training. At 17 of course you feel like an adult, but ask any 22 year old if they are a different person than they were at 17 and invariably the answer is "yes". I would say if you ask almost any person if they are a different person from 22 to 27 I would say most would say "yes". I sure would.
How hard would it be for, let's just say, an 18-year-old with a spousal visa and no University degree. Chances are just as hard as a Japanese 18-year-old. No one is going to hire an 18-year-old to be a teacher, foreigner or not. Most of my friends in Japan who were young and only graduated from high school were (and are) 土方 (
dokata). These are construction workers. Now for me this was after the Great Hanshin Earthquake, so maybe there was a greater need at the time. Of course there is nothing wrong with construction work if that is what you are into and enjoy, and certainly many people do, but if that isn't your bag, why would you limit yourself to that. Obviously you need to have the skills and strength required to do that.
There would be no need for someone to be a "Mr. Mom" and stay home while the wife worked if there were no kids in the equation.
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Originally Posted by Kenpachi11
I think thats its his decision not anyone elses. If he wants to do it then go ahead but make sure your willing to stick with her for the rest of your life. If it ruins your life then its your own fault and problem.
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I have never heard anyone on this forum take this stance about a ill-conceived kanji tattoo, so why would people take the same stance about teenagers getting married?
Yes, it is possible they will survive. It is also possible to survive jumping from a five-story window. Does that mean it si a good idea?