[TalnSG]

one point here that I didn't see before, though MMM asked about her parents.

Were her parents with her when she was in Vienna so you could meet them?

You are giong to have you life completely controlled by her father for an indefinite period of time, if he is funding your wedding, household and your employment for the foreseeable future.

You better like him even more than your prospective bride, because you don't seem to realize that he is going to be more prominent in every moment of your life that you probably imagine. Your wife is very likely to come second in order of prioirties - both for you and your Father-in-law-to-be.

Ths would be true regardless of the culture, but in Japan it will be even more blatant and expected. You will have no recourse at all if you think he is unfair or treats you poorly, except to abandon everything ...... inlcuding the woman who will always be his daughter first and your wife second.


For some people this is fine, and it may be well worth it over time, but consider it very carefully because it goes against all modern male western culture.