[Jizzeez]

Yeah, it is so hard to stomach criticism and demands from these women, especially as a foriegner trying to make it in Japan. My ex was actually divorced and had gone back to her parents' house. She initiated the divorce. She told me that after that she hoped to travel and do lots of fun things but couldn't as I didn't have enough money. I actually asked her to move in with me but she said that she couldn't do that until we were serious about marriage. She couldn't tell her mother she was serious about marriage with a guy who had no stability. Anyway, I let the living together thing drop until she had a big fight with her mother about her brother's money problems (her mother was paying off his debts for him), and now wanted to leave home. She looked at a couple of places and did the math, then realized there was now way she could afford it. She then asked me if she could move in with me. I was less than enthusiastic but wanted to help her out. Finally she patched things up at home and never mentioned living together again. In the end she dumped me because after constantly complaining about me not treating her to holidays or expensive restaurants. I reminded her that she had actually gone abroad last year on a shopping trip to Hong Kong with her friends. I had just been told that my contract would not be extended and was job hunting at the time so it woudn't have been too sensible to go. I mentioned that if the situation had been reversed I probably would have offered to pay for her but she had not even thought it insensitive to go shopping abroad. I also recall how at the time she proudly showed me her pay slip with summer bonus. I'm a tempstaff worker who gets no bonus.
I can't really imagine what happens to these kind of women. They are hardly a catch (divorced and over 35) have expensive tastes and are often pretty much controlled by their parents. She lied every weekend to stay over as she couldn't possibly tell her parents she was staying with me. She wasn't that good looking but had great hair, reasonable figure (tennis lessons nearby) and loads of nice clothes, jewellery, bags and shoes. I suppose an older sugar daddy would think her young and be happy to treat her but most 30-40 year old guys would probably find her really demanding and spoilt. Anyway, Japan has produced this situation with its gender inequality (they have no choice but to find rich husbands or live at home) so I guess the birthrate says it all. The catch is, even if they do hook a rich guy, he's out working or seeing other women, then too tired to have sex when he gets home. Man, this country is in trouble....