[Ningyou]

I can't really help you with this problem, but I can relate with you. I can be very androgynous as well, and I know a lot of people that are in transition or that just are more genderless than most. So I completely get where you're coming from, and frankly, it should be illegal to have "only male " or "only female" anything--it's sexism and it's not fair for the people that don't really fit into one specific category.