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06-29-2009, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by bELyVIS View Post
My attraction to Asian women goes back to when I was young and my Uncle married a Japanese lady. She is very feminine and kind but her looks are average. While I find pretty women from all races, I feel Asian women treat me how I want to be treated. After being married to an American woman, I will never have anything to do with one again no matter what race she is. I feel that "Equal rights" has put man-woman relationships out of balance. American women want to be so equal that they over do it and try to be in charge. A relationship is 50-50. My Japanese wife is submissive by nature, but I am making her understand that she is equal in her opinions and I take what she thinks into consideration. She loves this because no Japanese men treated her like this. I don't own her so she (and I) is happy to cooperate with me.
I know I'll get flak for this (especially from American women) but this is how I feel.
I think I remember you talking about your wife before, and I said then that it's great to have a loving relationship - and I still believe that. It may sound corny, but love is a beautiful thing. But I AM curious. Why do you like her to be submissive to you?

I'm not going to lie, I'm pretty annoyed when you said what I've put in bold. Women's rights are not only getting women out of the kitchen, but stopping brutal attacks against women. Physical and verbal domestic abuse, rape, molestation - a lot of it stems from the idea that women are submissive, and the attackers want to feel stronger by attacking someone who is submissive.

Sorry if this seems inappropriate, but it's something I study in school, so I want to bring it up: a lot of modern day porn is a perfect example. Most of it is extremely derogatory towards women, making men powerful while women are turned into holes to attack - literally. Porn generally reflects the sexual ideals of a society - porn is what people fantasize about, right? That suggests that, in today's society, a lot of people just view women as holes - and bitches, whores, etc.

Then there's also economic oppression, with women who struggle financially because many still DO believe that women belong in the kitchen, not in the workplace.

I do agree with you about the 50-50 dynamic, though. If I ever marry a man, I would expect him to do chores - and I would help him, too. I would have a job, and I would expect him to have one too. If we had children, I would expect him to stay home certain days while I'm at work and I would stay home other days while he's out. It definitely needs to be a balance. But this brings me back to my question to you - if you believe this, then why do you still like having a woman submit to you?


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