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Originally Posted by Barone1551
So your basically saying that any and all attraction is based on stereotyping. You cant find someone attractive based on looks alone, it all has to do with how you think this person is?
and on two side notes: there was a time in another thread when you brought up the fact that the color of you skin or skin tone has nothing to do with you as a person. This is very true, it doesnt. You went on this whole speech of saying "does the color of my skin make make me any less of a mother" and so on and so forth. Once again no it does not. But in this same thread you called a women ugly, now by your standards, What made that women any less of a mother or a person. Nothing. You are a pretty big hypocrite.
And on the other side not: since you did say in another thread that you thought it was racist to not be attracted to a certain skin tone, I want to ask you this:
Would you label people who are not attraced to the same sex or are not bisexual as sexist? So if I were to say I am not attracted to the same sex as me, would you then label me as sexist? This seems to follow your same pattern of thinking.
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I don't think that's what I'm trying to say... What I'm trying to say is that there are always going to be ideas attached to how a person looks, ideas that influence WHY a person is attracted to another person. I've given a lot of examples, so I don't feel like I need to again.
About that woman... SHE LOOKED LIKE A BLOODY ZOMBIE. I'm sorry, but she was pretty damned ugly. I didn't say that she's any less of a mother. I didn't say that I think being ugly means a woman won't be a good mother. I just said that she was ugly. I'm sorry if you think I'm being hypocritical, but I never claimed that I don't have my own standards of beauty. I most certainly do. All I'm claiming is that there's a reason why I find certain people attractive and others unattractive. It's not "just because." My reason for why I think that woman is ugly? Her face is really sunken, making me think that she's diseased or that she doesn't eat very well. I'm attracted to people who are healthy, and who have the means to feed themselves.
As for sexism... well, yes - I actually do feel that it's sexist. There are many books about sexism being attached to heterosexuality, and is definitely a really interesting discussion if you want to get into it (without getting into an argument, because I'm not in the mood for another one of those.) I have to say, though, that I'm really interested in sexuality and gender, and I WILL go on forever about it... So if you want me to elaborate, I'd have to come back and talk about it later because I'm a little drained right now.