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Originally Posted by Nyororin
As bad as it may seem at the moment, I would say to just break up for the time being. I`ve been there, done that, and it didn`t really end well.
Asking someone to wait for your dream is selfish if you TRULY care about them. Just make sure you are very clear as to why you want to end the relationship. Being away from someone for a year is going to put a huge amount of stress on her (but not you, really, as you`ll be in a different environment with other things to think about and little time to become depressed.)
If you come back in a year and you still feel strongly toward each other, there is going to be nothing to stop you from getting back together. In my case, I burned my bridges (so to speak) to avoid regretting things, but... I don`t think it was the wrong decision in the long run. The other party was able to get over it fairly quickly, and they were probably happier in the long run... And I was free to really think about the future without wondering if I`d be hurting them.
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I dont feel it is selfish for him to ask her wait for his dream. A year is a long time to break up and expect something that may not happen. In a year she would have most likely moved on or tried to. Not to mention if they just break up it could hurt her really badly and she may not want to come back to him knowing the pain he caused her before.
If they love each other i feel they can find a way to work things out, but maybe him taking our advice might not be the answer, Sometimes you have to figure it out on your own. He needs to talk to his girlfriend and find out how she feels. They can go over the options they have
A long distance relationship, break up, or move together.
Im sure if they talk about it they can find what works for them. Who knows maybe she will want to go with him or maybe she would want to end the relationship because she cant deal with what is going on.
I think they need to find a way to work it out together.