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Originally Posted by MMM
Of course if you can "prove" someone bullied someone, then they bullied. I am saying just because you feel bullied or discriminated against doesn't mean that it happened. Human perceptions are ruled by emotion, and by nature, emotions aren't always rational or logical.
Let's say I go to a native Chinese restaurant and am seated before a Chinese-speaking group. I order first, but they get their order before I do. I may feel that because I am not Chinese I was discriminated against. However, that does not mean the Chinese restaurant owner discriminated against me. I may not realize that the other table called their order in on the phone before they arrived. So my perception and the reality are not the same.
On this site someone might say "Some mods don't know what they are doing." If I feel that comment is directed towards me, I may feel insulted. However that person could be talking about someone else, and therefore didn't insult me, whether I perceived it that way or not.
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And yet I feel that emotional responses are underrated and that logic is overrated. Logically, according to scientists in the 1920s, homosexual men and women were "inverts" and "sick." Those scientists didn't pay attention to the fact that love - an emotional response - is really what fueled gay men and women, and that love is what fuels heterosexual men and women too. Logically, though, they were completely different groups of men and women - and one group deserved (and still deserves, apparently) more rights than the other. (I don't want this to turn into a discussion about gay rights. I was just using it as an example.)
Personally, I always pay more attention to a person's emotions and feelings more than cold logic - because logic constantly changes from culture to culture, from generation to generation. Emotions will always be the same. If you hurt someone's feelings, they will always feel pain.