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Originally Posted by Yoite
I'm right now in a difficult situation. I'm having a dream, a dream who seems to be able to become reality; to study Japanese in Japan. This idea is wandering in my mind for a long time, even before I got my girlfriend.
So, my idea was to study Japanese in Japan next year, it's becoming a bit more real now because of the support of my parents. I found a university which I like and I'll probably try to go there (I have got another year at high school here). But the other side is; how on earth will I explain this to my girlfriend? I love her and I don't want to leave her and stuff; but should I give up my dream for her? I haven't told her a thing about it. My other friends already know a bit about it, but she doesn't know a thing (I'm afraid to hurt her). She once told me she wanted to travel but I don't know if this would be the moment for her (she said that it was something for when she was older). I don't believe I can drag her all the way to Japan, but I think she would go crazy if I left....(I think she would, at least the way she is now) I'm just clueless on how to prevent a disaster.
Sorry for the big story which wasn't really exciting, nor intresting but it is bothering me a lot. I can't talk about it with my friends because they don't want me to go and my parents do support me but prefer I stay too.
I'm so close on realizing this, but I seem to be so far at the same time.
Please give me some advice?
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I spent a year in Japan with my girlfriend stuck half of the time in the States and the other half across the pond. A year is easy.
And you're in high school. The odds of you ending up with your current girlfriend, like it or not, are basically nonexistent. Everyone likes to pretend they're different, but take it from an idealist-turned-realist like me, if you have a choice between chasing your dreams and a girl
in high school, you go after your dreams.
You will regret not chasing a dream the rest of your life. After being married to someone else for 30 years, you will not regret the one that got away when you were 17.
Edit I just read your last response. Hate to tell you, man, but she's going to go off to college and have sex with many guys next year. Your relationship will not last. High school guy, college girl, separate cities? Not happening. Statistically highly improbable.