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Originally Posted by YukisUke
That's true. Because of fact that they're bottling up their feelings for most of their lives, anything can set them off. Nyorin, this is what we meant.
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People bottle up their feelings everywhere, and there are plenty of people who "anything will set them off".
I know what you meant, and I am disagreeing. It`s no worse in Japan. Personally, I think that in some areas people are more expressive of their feelings here. You know that whole "inside" and "outside" way of thinking - the inside is a protected sort of thing and people do very often let their feelings out in completeness.
In the US, I have honestly never met a guy who didn`t change sadness, disappointness, etc etc into anger as a coping mechanism. Usually linked to violence (not necessarily toward people, mind you. Throwing stuff, kicking stuff, etc). I figure it`s because of the very strong cultural thinking toward men crying - ie. They`re men so they don`t do it - or, it`s a "gay" or "pussy" thing to do.
But in Japan, I have never known a guy who didn`t shed tears if something was upsetting. Not in public of course, but still.
If you think that Japanese bottle up their emotions, you`re looking in the wrong places.