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Originally Posted by Nyororin
People bottle up their feelings everywhere, and there are plenty of people who "anything will set them off".
I know what you meant, and I am disagreeing. It`s no worse in Japan. Personally, I think that in some areas people are more expressive of their feelings here. You know that whole "inside" and "outside" way of thinking - the inside is a protected sort of thing and people do very often let their feelings out in completeness.
In the US, I have honestly never met a guy who didn`t change sadness, disappointness, etc etc into anger as a coping mechanism. Usually linked to violence (not necessarily toward people, mind you. Throwing stuff, kicking stuff, etc). I figure it`s because of the very strong cultural thinking toward men crying - ie. They`re men so they don`t do it - or, it`s a "gay" or "pussy" thing to do.
But in Japan, I have never known a guy who didn`t shed tears if something was upsetting. Not in public of course, but still.
If you think that Japanese bottle up their emotions, you`re looking in the wrong places.
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I'm not saying that all Japanese people do that, but the majority of them do.