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Originally Posted by clintjm

Yes you may ask..

Yes, but I seriously doubt that those children you speak of meet the items listed in tsuwabuki post... young single parent adopting from the US, then taking that child to a foreign country. If a US adoption agency in any state allowed this, then they would be negligent.

I don`t recall Tsuwabuki ever saying he was interested in adopting from the US. I answered his inquiry under the assumption that he was not looking into adoption from the US, but rather from the countries he actually listed; PRC and ROC. If he is able to adopt a child, then there should be no issue with bringing the child into Japan as a dependent if it below 6. This is a fact. He also stated that he wasn`t going to go out and do this tomorrow - he says "next few years" in the first post. If it were a futile effort to even consider it, wouldn`t it be best to know this before investing time or money in the endeavor? I don`t believe it is my or your place to judge someone, particularly based on a simple question asked on a forum.

Even though it is clear that Tsuwabuki is not asking about an adoption of a child from the US, I am curious. How, may I ask, would it be negligent to allow someone who lives outside or has plans to live outside the US to adopt a child? You have mentioned discrimination issues, and culture/language issues... but how is that a different situation than bringing a child from outside the US into the US? International adoptions are far from unheard of, and I assure you the stress is the same for the child no matter where they move to. In my opinion, the fact that a child is "adopted" will make no difference in Japan. The fact that they`re not Japanese will totally outweigh this. I highly doubt that adoption itself will ever be an issue if the child is not Japanese.
In the case of a child from another Asian country, I would imagine it would be slightly LESS stressful as the chances of them fitting in with everyone would be raised. The age *limit* is 6, it`s not a set age for adoption. A child adopted at 1 to 3 is unlikely to experience much of a language/culture clash.

In regards to your cross post reply:
Never said I didn't like Japan... love it in fact...
Don't know where you get this idea about me hating culture and lifestyle... again love it.
Just don't like how society will always treat foreigners ...

You seem to make a point of talking about things in a negative way. From what I can see, it looks more like you "tolerate" Japan at best.

I understand you have beer glasses on now being young and in Japan now... , one day you will understand if you continue to live in Japan.

I`m curious where you get the idea that I am some young kid in Japan for a couple years...?

I have accepted this fact and will live it. However for those who paint it to be all peaches and cream, I have a write to voice my opinion and tell those who decide to go to Japan to expect what I have stated in this and the other thread "whats it like?".

The problem isn`t with pointing out that there are negative things in Japan. The problem is with pointing them out as if they`re the ONLY things in Japan. Not everyone is going to leap to discriminate - that is, in my experience, a very VERY small minority. Presenting Japan as a place where there is little other than discrimination and racism is no different than presenting it as a perfect paradise. Both are wrong.

I'm not going to give up on the US or run away from the problems that exist there either. Replies such as well if such and such gets better or I don't feel wierd in such and such situation, I might live there again if I choose... make me angry (or MAD if you will).

I haven`t commented on US issues, so will not reply to this bit.

Well the thread actually is about tsuwabuki adopting from his home country, Us/Texus. Not Japan.

Please re-read the first post. You will see that it isn`t, which is apparently leading to a lot of misunderstanding in this thread.

Its an unfortunate fact for me and my wife that we will most likely have to adopt to have a child. It is next to impossible to adopt from Japan - for a foreigner... maybe not by law... but the unwritten ones will always make this so.. (this is true even so that my wife is Japanese). We have looked into one in Kyushuu but we were told "on the side" it is unlikely but could start the paperwork because we met the "requirements".

That is really unfortunate, but in my experiences if you know where to look and the right path to take - it`s no harder than for a Japanese person. Adoption is hard in Japan. It has nothing to do with your race. Talk to Japanese who have tried to adopt, and you`ll find 10, 20, 30 failed attempts and fear that the guardian will change their mind up until the very day that things are transferred legally. Japan simply does not have an adoption infrastructure. Plan to spend 2 to 5 years working with different facilities and then with guardians to actually get anywhere.