[Tsuwabuki]

I'm actually on vacation, in Taipei, so I spent time today doing touristy things. That being said, obviously there is a lot to go through that has been posted, and I can't possibly reply to it all bit by bit, but I'll try to hit the highlights.

I guess I was understanding his message in a different way than you have. To me, it appeared he was asking whether bringing an adopted child into Japan was a possibility. Not whether he would be a good parent, or whether any country would allow him to adopt a child. I leave that judgement up to those who actually make those decisions.
If it were impossible to bring an adopted child into Japan, it would be a moot point from day one.

Nyororin is correct. This is precisely what I was asking. It would indeed be a moot point since I have no reason to leave Japan in the forseeable future. Forseeable being at least the next five to ten years.

I can`t say I have a high opinion of the choice to raise a child as a single parent. Especially at an age where it is completely and totally possible that he will decide to have a relationship later on. A child could (99% chance) seriously complicate that.
But - if he is totally serious about not being interested in a relationship, marriage, or the problems adopted a child before that could bring... I still see it as better for a child to have one parent than NO parents. Any adopted child will be entering a "foreign" environment, even if adopted in their own country.

Actually, I haven't had a relationship in nearly four years. I've dated a few times, both in and outside of Japan, and I'll be frank: my heart isn't in it. I really don't see that changing. I agree that my preference would be to have a partner in raising a child, and I think that it does indeed make it easier. If I wait, how long should I wait? What if at 35 I still feel the same way? Should I put off adopting then? 40? Where do you draw the line? These are rhetorical questions. Frankly, I don't think any one really knows the answer to that.

This may be true. I don`t know. If they judge him unsuitable to be an adoptive parent, then they do. All I know is that IF he were able to adopt, he could indeed bring the child into Japan as a dependent if they are under 6.

This is all I wanted to know. The rest, as I said, will be up to State, the adoption agency, or a combination. No one here is going to be able to give me advice on what exactly they're going to tell me. Nor was it my question.

I definitely agree with this - If a qualified two parent home is available, it should definitely receive priority. A child left parentless in the system seems a lost worse than being raised by a decent single parent though.

I concur. The whole point of this is because, while yes, I do want a child (even if I don't want the spouse), I also want to be beneficial to the child. If a more stable environment is in competition with me, then I would be selfish if I did not want the child to go to that environment.

Frankly this thread especially nor the other thread do not have the subject of painting Japan in a positive light. And yes I typed up to Tsuwabuki because frankly in both threads the references he made to all of USA and "westerners" was derogitory to say the least (as in post #11 of this thread) and enough in the other thread "whats is like" so even post #33 agrees with Tsuwabuki "yes i dont like america and i live there".
He has stated why he doesn't like the condition of the USA in comparison of Rural Kyoto a little too much for my taste...

Derogatory? I've clearly stated that I'm quite proud of America. Not as proud at the moment as I could be, of course, but there's always room for improvement. Nor was I bashing westerners in general. Nor, for that matter, was I idolising the Japanese. Japan has idiots, and it has problems. Not a society on Earth that doesn't, but this constant portrayal of Japan as being problem-ridden where non-Japanese are accosted on a daily basis across the country as if Japan were some sort of anti-Foriegner police state need to stop. It just isn't true.

And you've been extremely condescending. I treat everyone like my intellectual equal, at least at the beginning. When I approach a discourse with an academic mindset, it is because I respect the person on the other side, as long as they meet me with the same mindset. You have repeatedly abused this by claiming you need not engage in a way that follows the rules of debate. Instead you make snide little witticisms intended to provoke. A perfect example is:

Glad you are making a good living there.. it is commindable.. plus if English Teaching is really want you want to do as career (a career is field of work you have chosen for life).. then more power to you.

I am well aware of the definition of the word career. And since I said I went to college to be an English teacher, that would imply that, yes, I do intend to make it my career. I have every intention of teaching, at some level, in some subject area, for the rest of my life. Most likely, it will be English. It, perhaps, might be philosophy. But then... you already knew that, you were just trying to provoke a response, and I've failed to disappoint.

And you go on to say I made comments I never made. Not only the very essence of the first post, but also here:

You say your younger highschool chums are too young to have children as a couple yet you come up with this mad plan.

I didn't say this. I said that I was in a better financial position than they are, and that they were younger than I now am, yet they still chose to have children. I never said they were too young to have children.

When you sprinkle your counter-points with inaccurate information and intentionally inflammatory comments how can you expect to be taken seriously?

And if I had meant advice, I would have said advice. I said thoughts and I meant thoughts. You had your say, you issued your thoughts, don't feel hurt that I find them flawed and ignore them.