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Originally Posted by mercedesjin
MMM: I've said it again, and I'll continue to say it: CULTURAL value. Not financial value. Money is what makes the world go around these days and, unfortunately, for alimony a person needs to go to court. To win their case, a person needs a good lawyer. For a good lawyer, a person needs money. Painful catch 22, isn't it?
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Sadly, millions of people go through this every year. The American court system places a HIGH FINANCIAL value on stay-at-home moms. I have never heard of a divorce proceeding where the stay-at-home mom did not receive alimony. Often the "bread winner" ends up paying for both lawyers. The divorce lawyer for the stay-at-home mom will only charge her if she receives a settlement and alimony. It's a business, and that's how it works. No catch-22 there. If the mother has a case there are thousands of lawyers who will take it at no cost until the settlement.
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Originally Posted by mercedesjin
As for single parents, what are the roles that each father and mother must play in a child's life?
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Did I say "must". I don't think there are any roles that a father and mother "must" take, but being raised by a father and mother statistically leads to the most success for a child. Yes there are screwed up kids who had a mother and father, and yes there are successful people from single family homes, but the statistics are staggering. The vast majority of men in prison came from single parent homes (mostly fatherless homes).
There are things a mother will teach a child and there are things a father will teach a child. These aren't necessarily the same things. The fact that so many men in prison didn't have fathers is testament to this.
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Originally Posted by mercedesjin
And your question... I'm sorry, I don't understand it, I guess because it's out of context. I can't find where it was originally asked either. Explain it for me please?
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Originally Posted by MMM
Some people think it is sexist if a man does one thing (makes money) and a woman does another (raises family). That seems a little silly to me, and this idea that everybody should do everything is a terrible model. Name a successful business where everybody does everything. There is nothing sexist about having roles. Especially if those roles are considered valuable.
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Originally Posted by mercedesjin
And what about abusive fathers? What about abusive mothers? Do you think it's better to have an abusive parent than to not have both?
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Why would you ask a silly question like that? Let's stick to the topic.