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Thanks for the replies, yes audio does sound like a good idea I might try that first for a few days, I really want video footage tho cos I think she might b intimidating him without raising her voice.
I could get another nanny too but i'm happy with this one if she isn't doing the things he says he is, I jus wanna kno for sure because much as I love him and he is such a good boy in every other way, I just can't believe everything he says, he's like 'the boy who cried wolf', he's 4yrs and very smart for his age but unfortunately he also tends to lie alot, which i'm trying to stop but he jus keeps makin things up all the time and says it so convincingly. I quite like that he's so clever imaginative and creative but he overdoes it when he falsly accuses people of doing things just to try and get them in trouble.

He said she's nice till I leave then she's not, that she switches over the tv and doesn't let him watch cartoons, doesn't play or talk to him tells him to sit down and be quiet talks on her phone all day and when they go out that she walks so fast he falls down and apparently doesn't give him lunch.
Now I know some of them are most likely fabricated because I pointed out to him if he was always falling down why arent there any scratches on his knees, also he never seems to be hungry when I return so he mustve eaten and I can tell the pans and dishes and food have been used for the day, as for the tv a few hrs after telling me that, we were playing and he recalled an episode of Dora The Explorer he'd watched that day and said he wanted to play the game she was playing in it, how could he hav watched that if she don't let him watch tv? Everyday I return there's a few creations he's made during the day with her drawings/paintings etc and he seems very happy hugging her when she leaves and making her promise she'll come back the next day, soon as she's out the door he's face completely changes and when I ask him what it is he says she's not nice to him and says all these things.

Luckily he'll b in school next yr, I could've put him in nursery but worry he might get bullied by the other kids etc even tho i kno it'd b a good way to prepare him for school. I could ask the nanny but he makes up so much that I feel almost ashamed to, also if she were doing these things I doubt she'd admit it so wanna get the facts from fiction first.
I don't kno why he's like this, I hav friends with kids and they don't behave like that, also the fiction he makes up is so 'calculating' and at such a young age I don't even know what to do anymore but stay alert and try to separate fact from fiction as much as i can, by calculating I mean the type of things he can think to say like her walking too fast, surprisingly he's never said she hit him etc which would be a more usual thing to say, it's sad because if one day someone does hurt him then how will I kno! I hate also what a reflection it has as me as a mother, I do everything for him, am an honest person and a good mother yet he behaves like this for no known reason, I can't see any past behaviour or influences to reflect his attitudes asides from his father. I'm a single-parent now and left his father when pregnant because he is dishonest a thief and a compulsive selfish liar, can a child really inherit these types of behaviour from a parent theyve never known??? I think that highly unlikely and am very confused on the subject, either way i've decided to get the facts first before confronting my nanny so will look for some type of audio device, anyone kno any good site and what type would be best??