[Lithiumflower]

Being formal is the key. You really don't want to look like a cupcake is the main thing. Sure it includes all the lace, ribbons, and girly appeal, but it's def. toned down to more of an accent. Bustles are always a good option. I'd say try aiming for a Victorian tone. Higher more dignified heels, more grown-up style stockings, and I'd stick to classic purses and hats. Elbow-length gloves can def. work. :] Still keep to the basic skirts shapes and coordinate, but use colors such as subdued pinks/blues/greens, dark shades, and your usual black and whites. Brown and cocoa colors could work.