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Originally Posted by chryuop
Personally after a reply like yours I wouldn't become a "functional" person of this forum, but I would leave...and as a matter of fact I did it for several months in the past and even now I find more a friendly enviroment another forum (can't mention it to be fair with Japan forum, but I guess you know it coz you suggest the lesson site, whose forum I am talking about, very often in here).
There are ways and ways to say things and even tho you claim over and over to be very educated...unfortunately you are way too faulty in other aspects. Maybe in a court of law you have the right to treat people like that, but fortunately out of court people have the freedom to just turn their back to you.
Please keep this in mind, because as a member who posts very often and answers to question about Japanese language you are one of the few in here who can leave a good or bad "first impression". Unfortunately though that leaves a mark on the whole forum and not only on you.
Just my 2 cents...
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You may have a point, and I do try and be kind to newcomers most of the time, but when someone asks questions answered in a sticky on this site, I think it is cause for reprimand.
And I view people whose first post is a translation request as very suspect—basically, I expect them to get their translation and leave and never return. It happens everywhere else I've ever visited. Basically, if Post #1 asks for a translation, there will be about three follow-up posts and then nothing ever again. It makes me feel used and dirty. I don't know, maybe that's just a personal problem of mine.
But you are right that I should be more kind; I tend to lose patience with those who ask what I consider to be objectively dumb or lazy questions (e.g., "please translate this, my first post ever" and "how do I do something there's a sticky about" and "how can I learn Japanese in 15 days"). Perhaps that
fourth post I made in this thread should not have been in caps. But the first three cannot possibly be construed as antagonistic. Incredulous in #3, but not antagonistic.
And please direct me to where I claim to be very educated. I try very hard not to mention my education or intelligence or anything like that directly; I'd rather demonstrate it through help.
And, to be fair, I think you in particular got upset with me about something in the past and now apparently see that I'm so negative all the time. I think I've refuted you twice by demonstrating that somewhere near 95% of all posts I make are helpful and positive.