[Twisted]

Hum, I wanted to douse the flames, not fan them.

I also got a bit sidetracked there. I'm also talking about love as an emtion. Love itself can be defined in so many way that this post would tke up a page or two.

Originally Posted by iPhantom

Love focuses on caring for others before oneself. To me, happiness is just an aftereffect of it. doesn't necessarily make me selfish, but an altruist (which also includes having selfish emotions in it, but not as the primary focus)

That's altruism. A form of love. So you're partially right there. But why put others needs before your own? That's a question I've asked myself many times.

To make things clear: I donate to WWF, Terre de Hommes and Doctors without borders. Why? Because I care.

I would like to find a girlfriend and make her happy. Why? Because I have a lot of love to give and atain happiness myself through giving that love.

All living things are driven by needs. I don't hate or dislice love, it's just my philysophical point of view. I still think love is wonderfull.

And yes, I am an altruistic person. I put the needs of other before my own. But I can be selfish. Pure altruisim in this world it treated as stupidity. They'll exploit you every chance they get... Trust me, I know. They also call that being naïve.

So, I may augment my statement here:
romantic love is selfish.

Also: I can bring more arguments, but I'm afraid people would see me as a negative person here... That post had some major edits done to it to tone it down. Some sence was left on the editing room floor I guess XD