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02-13-2010, 05:52 AM

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Originally Posted by alanX View Post
Why do you think so?

My Japanese fiance and I are madly in love.
But then again, maybe she's having an online/in person relationship with someone from another hemisphere for the past 4 years, spending thousands of dollars to visit me every year, maybe that's not deep? Maybe she's doing it for the sake of "being in a relationship?"

Maybe my Japanese fiancee's sister is married to an Australian man for the past 17 years "just to be in a relationship." And maybe her daughter is a product of "just being in a relationship."

And maybe my best friend's Japanese girlfriend is in a relationship just for the sake of it. And maybe bELyVIS's wife is in it for just for the sake of "being in a relationship." Maybe my Japanese lady friend Kumi is engaged to a man from France for "the sake of being in a relationship."

I'm not one to shut down another person's opinions, but frankly the opinions I've been reading in this thread are just ridiculously stupid and not to mention, very far from reality, down right absurd. Especially that of Ronin4hire and Sangetsu. If you asked me, they are the one's living in a fantasy world.

Seems to me like Ronin4hire and Sangetsu think Japan is a loveless nation.


Whoah... slow down tiger

I wish my comment was still up so that I could explain what I said because its obvious that you've missed the point of what I was saying and read too much into it. (I thought my sucker punch was clever too but I guess the mods saw through it )

Ill try to summarise it for you then.

All I was saying is that the OP is misguided if he thinks dating a Japanese woman will ultimately lead to a fulfilling relationship simply because he has an interest in Japan. Instead of looking for caricatures of an essentialised notion he has of Japan to date, he would probably fare better if he dated a woman that actually shared his interest rather than reflected it.

I wasnt trying to demean cross cultural relationships.
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