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Originally Posted by Nyororin
Usually it`s when there is more than one non-Japanese guy, and me. The same seems to be pretty much true for the other non-Japanese women I have talked to about it... So maybe it isn`t area.
Or I could just be really unlucky to have met an abnormally large number of obnoxious guys. If the guy is really obnoxious, they`ll go one to talk about the "size" of Japanese guys, etc... Until I say my husband is Japanese. And seriously, 9 times out of 10, they end with the exact line "Well, that must be a lot of fun in bed!" and laugh with a look of pity in my direction. Seriously. I am almost tempted to think there must be some sort of shared mentality with them.
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Nope, I second this. I have totally been in a bar with a bunch of non-japanese men and once the booze starts flowing the talk always seems to turn right around to this.
It's incredibly weird that they think that because I'm not japanese, or the people around them aren't japanese, it's a free passport to tell all about how awesome japanese girls are and how many they've had (albeit, normally via conversation with other guys). Sometimes it's almost like a vitriolic issue of "hey, let's make a point about how much western girls suck". Although, i'll add, there has always been one or two poor guys (I'm sorry to say, also often the only non-americans present) sat back looking awkward about the tone of conversation and in general rather apologetic about it. And honestly, some of the non-japanese girls could be just as bad.
And I've definitely heard the slagging off of asian men and then rather pointed pity looks aimed at the girls. Or brags of "Yeah, well, I gotta sleep with as many as I can, give the poor girls something to remember!"
I never minded when the japanese people asked me what I thought of Japanese guys, because the girls just wanted an honest opinion, and with the guys it was always in a shy, flirty sort of way or simply curious. When the other guys asked it, it was always like they wanted me to immediately say how awful they were (and by default, how much better western guys are, and how sorry I am to have strayed from the path of giant...ego...).
I think you might be onto something with area though. Avoiding the gaijin hot-spots meant I ran into a lot less of this kind of thing, and you did meet more non-japanese guys who weren't there just for the girls so much.