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Originally Posted by bELyVIS
The reason I wanted to marry a Japanese lady goes back to when I was young. My uncle married a lady from Okinawa because he was stationed there. I found her to be very kind and ladylike (she wasn't so "hot" so this has nothing to do with it, but average looking) and I liked that. He never treated her as anything but as an equal, not as a slave, so I didn't have this misconception. So my wanting to marry (not just bed down) a Japanese lady has nothing to do with looks or myths about being easy. In my experience Japanese ladies aren't as easy to sleep with, as some other nationalities I've known, because they take more work to get interested and keep interested in you before they would sleep with you.
When I was in Japan, my first girlfriend was Chinese so I was willing to keep my options open and judge the person not the nationality. But this didn't work out and eventually met my wife.
My wife has lived and traveled all around the World so she has met many people and dated men from other countries. She felt that Japanese men didn't treat her as well as other men so she wanted to marry a foreigner.
My wife is the most understanding and kind person I've ever met. She is ladylike and very loving, so this shows the myth about them being unloving to be false, and shows it.
All I can say is that some people always want to others to feel that their ideas and feelings are wrong because they have an internal conflict of their own. Me, I do as I want and am truly happy with my wife.
To those of you who want to meet a Japanese lady and treat her respectfully, you will not be sorry. Don't let anyone tell you what you should do or how you should act.
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Great post, bELyVIS.
I've yet to find a girl from another ethnicity that has the same ladylikeness (creating words FTW) about her, and there's something more "natural" and feminine and elegant about Japanese women, that I can't find anywhere else.
Also, I know exactly what you mean, not only my girlfriend, but also my normal Japanese friends have said that they don't like dating Japanese men, because there is no "Ladies first rule" with Japanese, and Japanese women definitely deserve a man who will treat them like a queen.
