I wasn`t trying to put words in anyone`s mouth - just pointing out how it can be interpreted.
I also think it`s fairly obvious that you`d only
hear that Japanese men don`t treat their girlfriends well, etc - I doubt you`ve dated any yourself! (If you have, well, hmm... Okay.)
The same with a lot of men who are interested in Japanese women due to the cultural differences - Japanese women who are interested in foreign men because they are foreign also often have bad experiences in love behind them.
Belyvis` wife was not treated well in prior relationships. Does this mean that Japanese men are terrible? No - it means that those men she was with were.
If someone came along touting the joys of some other race/culture, and said several times how their friends all told them Japanese women were awful, etc etc etc - (especially if there was
already a long standing stereotype of Japanese women being crappy in bed, treating their men like dirt, etc like there is with Japanese men...) I think you might like to point out that it may not be true.
If you didn`t think so and didn`t believe your friends, you wouldn`t write it. I`ve never heard a guy say "I`ve dated a number of Japanese men, and they were all terrible." - it`s obviously going to be secondhand info from friends or girlfriends. Unless there is something you two aren`t telling us here...
Really though, I wasn`t jumping to be offended, I was pointing out that in the end it amounts to the same thing. The result is that more stereotyping of Japanese men as crap partners is spread, and the more crap I end up having to hear about it when I come across anyone obnoxious.
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Besides, why should we take advice from someone who downgrades Japanese women by saying "only losers who can't get a date at home only date Japanese women" and refers to them as "little Geishas"? Clearly this person is more of a racist then someone who says they prefer to date or marry a certain type.
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